The Connection Between NVC and Leadership Call Two _ CNVC

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THE CONNECTION BETWEEN NVC AND LEADERSHIP CALL TWO Click for Recording Two 1 hour10 minutes 65.7 Mgb Attending: Bob Wentworth, Selene Aitken, Godfrey Spencer, Lynd Morris, Cate Crombie, Mair Alight, Jori Manske, Miki Kashtan (having difficulty being heard), Bren Hardt, Eliane Geren Together in Ithaca, NY: Valerie Lanctot-Bedard, Faye Landey, Martha Lasley, Gina Cenciose, Jerry KochGonzalez, Jane Connor TOPICS: 1. Share, discuss and explore ways in which we empower, inspire and encourage others to take leadership in their own life as well as offer leadership to others. Jori: I hand them back their lives and power when they try to give them to me. Having been in a counselor position where people want to hand to me their leadership. Affirmation that true guidance is within them.. . .A wholistic system and the way I like to operate. In our Compassionate Leadership it’s clear that there’s co-creation. I try to facilitate that people can take back their lives and also I hold a container, a larger vision, so there’s a real sense of contribution possible. Include those who are not present who are affected. Godfrey: You said holding people in consciousness. That seems to me to be an essential ingredient of leadership. Selene: Don’t take it for for granted that someone wants to be encouraged to leadership. Eliane: When I first started to learn NVC I was very excited about it and I said to Marshall, “I’d love to teach this but I don’t think I’m good enough at it yet.” I remember him saying that "good enough" is a judgment and I could simply start sharing what I’d learned. It encouraged me to take my first steps on the path and I grew from there. A few years ago when someone told me that she wanted to start an NVC organization with me and start giving workshops, I told her that I was uncomfortable because I didn’t think she had enough experience yet to do tha. I can’t remember if I said anything encouraging, but if not, I wish I had because I think that we need to stoke the sparks so they can become flames. Jori: finding a way to say "yes" to something, not just the ‘No.” Lynn: Sometimes an encouragement or a question can start a person recognizing, having more selfawareness. Once Miki put me in a category of leadership when I didn't think I was even interested. I grew into it. Valerie: Acknowledge value of encouragement. The voices in us that express fear when we’re stepping into leadership. How do we inspire. I want to be an example of how great it is to have leadership in my own life. Inner clarity, purpose, creativity. Not with my words but who I am. http://www.cnvc.org/articles/nvc-and-leadership-recording/leadership-call-two/connection-between-nvc-and-leadership-call-two

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Cate: Servant leadership. How to occupy 2 roles at the same time. Draw the best and highest from the inside. How I hold consciousness of power will affect how I do that. 2. Followership ???: we do not seem to be willing to support our leadership Godfrey: trust, consultation, transparency, openness, mutual relation. In Sweden leaders and community are in partnership and there is trust. Godfrey mentions that in Sweden the elected persons continue connection and conversation with those who elect the person with trust and respect and understanding leadership from within - me being proactive in my life - contributing to others 4. Power in relation to leadership. How do we handle power dynamics. Learning how to direct power and sharing it. How we relate to other people when they relate to us in ways... Bob: Power as access to resources. Helping people gain greater access to their inner resources as well as to outer resources. Miki: relating to our own relationship with power. this means owning that we have access to power and choosing consciously how to exercise our power with others. instead of the familiar way of feeling so uneasy about power that we become unconscious and pretend we don't have it, and then exercise it in unconscious ways that can be less productive. second piece is about learning how to work with the ways that people give power to us, so that we are conscious of this dynamic and make clear choices about it. This is not all, i just don't have more energy now. sorry. Jori: Rich topic for me. We have a whole body of work, The Vortex of Submission, that points to how our submission as well as our dominance affects power and leadership and its effectiveness. When I am in a leadership role, I’m wanting to be very very sensitive to others’ submission. I want to be sensitive to and make space for others. Power is shared by its nature. It is an energy between things and between people. It does not happen in a vacuum. I don’t have power unless others are willing to give it to me. When people convey the gift of power to me, I want to hold that gift with a lot of respect and a lot of care and consciousness. People have power over me only when I give them that power, consciously or unconsciously. I want to look at how I’m complicit in that. Mair: I caution myself and say it to others to not automatically take ‘yes’ for an answer, not take ‘no‘ for an answer either without being sure it’s a conscious choice. Bob: Some people don’t just make demands or requests, they also give supplication, begging. Average: No votes yet

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